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Living M/s; A Book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships
by Dan and Dawn Williams
Paperback: 192 pages
This book is a valuable resource for those interested in real-time Total Power
Exchange Relationships. Dan and dawn share the reality behind the lifestyle that
so many only fantasize about. This is a book based on the experience of a
couple, who has been living together as Master and slave for well over a decade
and covers such topics as: challenges of living as a M/s couple; building your
own M/s dynamic; changing terminology; the communities of M/s and BDSM and how
they dance together (and apart); styles of D/s and M/s; Ms and polyamory;
leather; orchestrating situations with multiple slaves, as well as many other
The leatherboy Handbook
by boy Vincent L. Andrews
||Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402 - Living in Harmony
by Robert Rubel, PhD
Paperback: 184 pages
Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 The Advanced Course
by Robert Rubel, PhD
Paperback: 171 pages
In the past when a potential leatherboy has asked me, where do I start I had to
guide them to a dozen publications and even then the information was incomplete.
Now the answer is simple, The leatherboy Handbook! This book is a wonderful resource for anyone interested in
the “boy subculture”. Vincent Andrews draws on his own experiences in the
leather community as well as some of the best source material available to
create what will surely become the companion volume to Larry Townsend’s
In a clear and concise voice with numerous references, “boy vince” has created a
goldmine for the budding leatherboy, no matter what his gender. Most
importantly, this book explains much of the “why” behind the boy experience, and
that is the key to its value. I heartily recommend this book for both boys and
Daddys, subs and Doms. It is a good read and a requisite for any leather/kink
The actual mechanics of much of BDSM---otherwise known as S&M or
leather---is well-documented in numerous how-to books, various movies, and
numerous novels. It is often seen as kinky sex, and is commonly portrayed as
involving skin-tight black leather clothing, chains, ropes, and nude or
semi-nude participants writhing in delicious erotic ecstasy while being flogged
or whipped by domineering "masters" and "mistresses".
And maybe this is what it is to many of the people
involved. And, in fact, it doesn't really sound half bad.
But there's much more to it than this. In reality there are
wants, needs, and hungers being explored and satisfied by BDSM participants
which often they aren't even aware of themselves.
"This Curious Human Phenomenon" looks under the hood to find
out what's really going on, at why people "do" BDSM, at what makes it so
enticing, at what needs it meets, and at why these can't readily be met
This is not a how-to book. Instead, it is designed to
be a bridge to understanding for people who want to take their BDSM to that
mythical "next step".
It’s easier to live in harmony when you know yourself and the person you’re
living with. Not “know” as in, “Why, hi, I’m Bob, glad to know you, want to live
with me?” But more like “know” as in you’ve spent quality time and effort to
figure out how you and your partner think (process information) and react to a
wide range of (often unobvious) challenges.
Most of this book offers things to think/talk about that may not have
occurred to you. That’s because we’re usually blind to the ways we’ve been
brought up; we don’t often think about how we think and we don’t often challenge
our own beliefs. Friction arises from these areas of invisibility. Once the veil
is lifted, and once you realize how you’ve been controlled and influenced by
your personal upbringing, you’re in the enviable position of being empowered to
choose to stay that way or to change. All change will affect your relationship.
These changes, themselves, may well improve your relationship(s) to the point
that more heavy-duty “problem-solving” techniques are unneeded.
In my view, it’s so important for you try on In my view, it’s so
important for you try on your new self (and your new understanding of your
partner) that the serious discussion of actual issue-solving strategies doesn’t
even begin until Chapter Seven; if your concerns and upsets hang on to you
through Chapter Six, we throw the kitchen sink at them in the final two
|Make your communication tool kit as complete as your
· Tips for getting on the same page with your partner
· Methods of communicating during emotional upsets
· Adding skills for clear and consistent communication
· Connecting better with your partner
· Exploring how you think, in order to learn how you communicate
· Tools for communicating more smoothly with your slave or Master
This book covers techniques from many disciplines and many communication
theorists to produce a practical work, jammed with tips and techniques for
improving communication and problem resolution within a relationship ─ whether a
Master/slave or a Dominant/submissive structure.
This book is for Masters. This book is for established Masters who are curious
about what someone could possibly write on the subject they know so well. This
book is also for those relatively new to the BDSM Lifestyle who are finding
themselves called to Mastery.
In many ways, this is a companion book
to my book on Master/slave protocols; this book covers the more general topic of
Master/slave relations – how they often evolve and how to avoid some problems
that can crop up in the early stages. We review ways that Master/slave (M/s)
relationships differ from Dominant/submissive (D/s) or Top/bottom relationships,
we discuss contracts and collars, and consider various ways of finding a slave
and starting such a relationship. After considering what each person can bring
to a relationship to help make it work, we suggest some tips for negotiating the
relationship and provide examples of contracts. We discuss the care and feeding
of the M/s relationship once it’s underway, including how to keep an M/s
relationship working and some suggestions about working on them if they start to
This book touches on topics such as:
- Who are you, as a Master?
- What do you want in a slave?
- What do you bring to the table?
- What do you want your slave to bring to the table?
- What roles do each of you intend to play in the relationship?
- How can you nurture an existing M/s relationship?
- What about love in an M/s relationship?
- What if the relationship doesn’t work out?
- How have you constructed your Leather Household?
- What expectations do you hold about your Family and its public
- How would you go about finding a slave candidate?
Note: this book carries the same content as Protocol Handbook for the Leather
slave but is written assuming that the slave is female. The other book is
Protocols have to be desigend by each Master for his/her slave. Protocols are
what makes a relationship special. This book is intended to provide examples,
ideas and discussion points to those who follow – or would like to follow – the
calling to live in a modern-day Master/slave Leather relationship.
How to Capture a Mistress is a light-hearted, but aggressive
approach, to mining that rare jewel, a Dominant Lady of quality, and figuring
out what to do once you’ve found her. It will take time and dedication, but
those special ladies are waiting to treasure, lead, play and discipline as
necessary. This book is written for submissive men who are having trouble
figuring out how to find a dominant female who is not simply a bitch. An entire
plan of action is spelled out.
How to Capture a Mistress addresses such topics as:
- Basics of Kinky Play
- Basics of playing with Power
- Dispelling myths about a Mistress
- Getting along with a Mistress
- Retooling your skills
- Recognizing when she isn’t the Mistress for you
- Edging above the competition
Petitions, contracts and collars
by Ralph White
Paperback: 207 pages
Master Fire has written an intimate and revealing look into her personal life as
a Master. She has deliciously chronicled her thoughts and actions on Mastery and
consensual slavery. Every aspect of slave management and life is addressed;
from finances to protocols. She lists her thoughts and rationales for her
actions as well as how she wants her needs and preferences addressed by those
who serve her.
The book reads like a long conversation with a good friend. Each chapter
reveals more meat to flesh out the author's standards of slave
management. Master Fire is open and honest in her self appraisal as well as in
her views of slavery and service. Her uniquely feminine
spirit is present throughout the book and adds a well flavored insight into a
Master's and woman's heart.
This book is a must for all connoisseurs of modern day Mastery and slavery
and I believe it is destined to become a classic. I highly recommend this work
for folks new to the lifestyle as a prototype of lifestyle development. I
equally recommend this book to well established leather folk as both a reference
guide and a bright mirror with which to look into our own lives.
This 8 1/2" X 11" spiral bound book is for the use of slaves who
wish to perfect their life by daily, weekly and monthly written exercises. The
assignments are thoughtful and provoking and lead the novice into a higher
understanding of the slave culture.
Life is a journey of heart and spirit. The learning process is one of
finding our own special and unique role. The hard part of the journey is then
deciding either to live up to what our spirit tells us we are or to live a
lesser life. Slavette has courageously chosen to make the leap and live her
Slavette's view of service and slavery as a journey is the "real deal.” Her
book is a guide for getting to know your own heart and spirit in service. The
writing assignments allow you to privately explore aspects of service as well as
the reaction of your own heart. They also make excellent topics for discussion
in development sessions.
“Spellbinding! HOT! Grabbed my attention & tied me up for days!”
-- Raven Touchstone
"Mistress Allure blind-folded us, tied us up, made us kiss her feet and used sex
toys on us we'd never used before -- and then she just blew us away! If you want
to spice-up a boring sex life or create an entirely new lifestyle of sensual
magic, you've gotta read her book!"
"Curious couples are 'bound' to be enlightened...Enjoy, I did!"
-- Seymore Butts
Director, Porn Star and Star of Showtime's Family Business
With the proliferation of the Internet into our lives, there is an explosion of
people wanting to find out about the BDSM lifestyle and culture. They turn to
the net because they can do so without their wife, husband, boss, neighbor, etc.
finding out about their kinky interests. To be sure, there is a wealth of
information on the internet, and some of it is actually correct too!
The key problem with using the Internet as a source for information is that
what you are reading is often incomplete or not balanced. The author of the
information is providing what he/she believes to be correct, but does not make
an effort to say: "There are other opinions." The Internet has created a whole
sub-culture inside of the BDSM lifestyle. There are just some things that you
can't do on-line that you can do in real life. For example, in real life a slave
might avoid eye contact to show deference and respect. You can't do that
on-line, or you can't read the screen. So, in the on-line world, we use
conventions like capitalizing dominant's names and not capitalizing submissive's
names. If a person's only experience is on-line, they assume that this is a
"rule" that everyone knows and follows. … It isn't! There are as many
combinations of "rules" as there are people to make them, and not one is
universal. In this volume, Ralph White strives to present not only his
point-of-view, but other views to which he doesn't necessarily subscribe. The
overriding principle in his book is: "If it works for you, it is okay for you."